As far as oil/oil filter changes. Been doing mine for years using an extractor. Very easy and clean.
I do mine twice a year for piece of mind and don't care what others say. My local auto zone
re-cycles the used oil.
If you lived closer I'd be glad to do it for you.
dwgolf, you handled the situation much better than I would have. I'm white by the way but I know some people are like your neighbor. They are ignorant after all this is 2014. Remember there is only one race the human race and we must love and care for each other.