Unnecessary risk when there are plenty of adoptable kids out there before you go make your own. Very selfish thing to do. It's kind of like buying from a puppy mill vs rescue.
Very true.
... Kids are not pound puppies, comparing the two tells me that you are probably in that early to mid 20 range and haven't really thought about having kids yet...
I know tons of people that didn't realize they wanted kids until they were near or beyond age 30....
...Your mind changes as your life does.
Son, I know I don't deserve your insult.
Reminds me of the rationale: "Eat $%!t, trillions of flies can't be wrong!"
Thanks for the condescending words of advice but I will correct your assertion as to how my mind has changed versus how my life has changed:
I've always felt that people bringing children into this life and death was, in general, wrong, ALWAYS.....
A lot of your words aimed at me seem like you should be looking in the mirror and speaking to yourself.
Oh yeah btw, I adopted a one year old girl, raised her well. I taught her to talk, to walk, to ride a bike, to drive a car (with manual trans), to have manners and class, to have healthy habits and much more. I have protected and loved her for 26 years and counting, son. Been there and done that.
no^. there's a lot of things that are genetic like mental illness, and there are a lot of innate things in/about people. Parenting is super important, no doubt, but it is not the end all be all to how a person behaves.
Adoption is fine and very honorable, however, like it or not, kids are the genetic spawn of their parents. There is no telling what awful personality traits that the kids could've received from their parents. Yes it sounds crazy and shallow but there are some things that are passed on...such as severe mental illness in some cases.
There is NOTHING like having your own children if you are fortunate enough to be able to procreate. My sons look like my wife and I and display both our good and not so good personality traits but it's truly amazing to see these little humans that we've created and to help them become great people. You can do that with adoption too but there is just something about having "mini me's" running around. :thumbsup:
This! Mental illness can definitely be hereditary. As always GK gets me
My wife will read this since she's in here lol. I really want kids but I'm super paranoid they won't be healthy. I wish there was a way they can test me to see if I can produce healthy offspring lol