dubessa
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I might sound like a heartless bastard but I don't see a point in collective grieving. His mom and dad are probably "dead on the inside" right now and seeing anyone, no matter how close will not bring him back. It's like, yes, I am sorry for your loss, I can't believe such a tragedy happened, etc. such a robotic thing to say...It won't do a thing, because they lost a son...closest thing to the meaning of life that we will probably ever get...
Anyways, I will donate some money for the funeral, but I'm leaning towards not going. I will probably wait a little and then write a letter on a piece of paper about something worthy of saying...Thanks everyone
You may think it's pointless, and yes the parents are sad, but don't you think they're prefer seeing the amount of people that care compared to an empty funeral? IMHO, sending them a letter a bit later is not a good idea. They will read it and only be reminded. The funeral is everyone else's chance to say what they need to say, and after the funeral is when the family begins their own personal greiving and moves on. Finding a reminder in the mail won't make that any easier for them.